Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Making Changes that Last in the New Year


Dear Friends of Quest,


I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  Happy New Year from Quest!  I can't believe another year has come and gone.  The beginning of January is always when I kick in to full gear to plan everything for the upcoming year so I can say that as a staff we are excited about what is in store for Quest this upcoming year! 


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This issue of our newsletter includes tips of how to celebrate the best achievements of the last year and how to best prepare to reach new goals in the year ahead.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California
Making Changes in the New Year that Last
The end of the year brings a good time to reflect on the past and to set goals for the future year to come.  Last month's newsletter was a piece on how to let things go and move forward, which often can be a good message people can carry into the new year.  In addition, I think the start of a new year can hold a new hope that this can be the year for amazing growth and change to occur.  Being a person whose career is focused on being invited in to see the transformation and growth that can occur in people's lives I can truly say that amazing things are possible when people are motivated to change and they have some key ingredients for change in place.  Below are some tips that I hope are helpful to you and your families as you may be setting out to make some resolutions or changes this year that will truly last the whole year to bring lasting change.


1.     Celebrate Successes
--It is critical to celebrate the successes that you have had.  This is a key step in moving forward and staying motivated in one's journey of self-change.  It is often true that you will take two steps forward and one step back because change is hard and it is really important to see progress to keep moving forward.  This is true for children and adults.  For example: even in the worst moments such as a child's tantrum it is often possible to see improvements and provide genuine praise such as, "Johnny, even though you still have to work on using your words, I like how today you calmed down much faster.  That tells me you are using a lot of your coping skills.  Good job!"

One activity I like to give to adults or families is to have each person make a list of the 3 things they are most proud of themselves for accomplishing this year and then parents write a list for their children.  Sometimes this can be challenging for the children I work with so if they have trouble coming up with a list I will have their parents give a list first and then they can say whether they agree with the things listed or not.  Either way, I think it is helpful feedback for children to have their parents provide them a list of at least the top 3 things that they think their child has been successful at this past year.  I like to have both parents or various loved ones give lists of their child's successes since often different people see a variety of accomplishments for a child.


2.     Set Realistic Goals that are Clear and Measurable
--Setting realistic goals is a key ingredient to success.  You want to set a goal that you can achieve.  The fastest way to feel discouraged is to set an unrealistic goal and then to stop because you were never going to reach that goal. (For example: The quickest way to end up eating a gallon of double chocolate malted crunch ice cream right out of the container is to set a goal to lose 10 pounds in one week.)  It is also important to set goals you can measure regularly such as give my child verbal praise at least 5 times a day since this is something that can be easily counted and isn't ambiguous.


3.     Focus on the Process Versus the Outcome
--For example if I set an overall goal to be healthier by changing my diet and exercising more I want to celebrate my successes for having a good process (making it to the gym at least 3 days per week, eating vegetables 5 days per week, no drinking soda, only having fast food twice per week, etc.) since the outcomes related to this (lower cholesterol, weight loss, etc.) will happen in time.  People usually have more success focusing on the process since these are things typically more in our immediate control.


4.     Set Timelines for Change for Over Several Months
--To be successful it is critical to know that real change takes time.  Research shows that often to make lasting change that becomes a habit often takes doing a certain behavior for a minimum of 2 months so make sure to make resolutions that are for at least a couple of months minimum.  It is better to start small and have a longer plan since you will be more likely to maintain this change over time. 

I hope this new year brings you health and happiness and that you choose joy.  Good luck in your journey as you move forward, hopefully celebrating many successes and also continuing to set new goals to challenge yourself in the new year.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Letting It Go


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  Happy Thanksgiving from Quest!  We hope that you have a wonderful holiday this month.

This issue of our newsletter includes tips regarding how to let things go in order to live a more full life.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

Letting it Go 
(Written by Brittany McKee, Quest Counselor)
The month of November is a common month in which we take the time to think about the things we are most thankful for in our lives.  With Thanksgiving fast approaching, it seemed to be a beneficial time to discuss the art of letting things go.  In a recent article in Psychology Today Judith Sills, PH.D writes in reference to letting things go and moving forward so that we can focus more of our time on what we are most grateful and thankful for.  Sills notes the importance of getting "unstuck" and how it involves reconsidering the past from a different point of view.  This can be very difficult for us to do because it forces us to confront the three strongest emotional drives we as humans have: love, fear and rage.  Having the capabilities to acknowledge the things that are difficult for us to let go of and to look at them from a different point of view can give us the opportunity to move forward. [1]

Sills presents six action steps to take to let things go.

 
1. Anchor Yourself in the Future
It can be difficult to let go of the past when we do not have a positive view of tomorrow.  It is really important to have a vision for tomorrow.  Having a positive activity or goal to look forward to will help pull you out of the quicksand of yesterday. 

2. Discard
To actively push past the past it is important to discard things that are going to keep you in the past.  Sometimes it can be difficult to discard things, in which case, you can put these memories in a box or suitcase and put them in the back of your closet until discarding them will be less difficult.  But it is important to keep discarding so that we can keep moving toward the future.

3. Repair
Making amends can be an important part of letting go and moving forward.  Stating your remorse involves three parts--an articulation of the harm you feel you did; a chance for the other person to express his or her point of view or past pain; and an authentic expression of remorse from the heart.  

4. Transform Your Narrative
A powerful way to ease past pain is to rewrite key aspects of the story from a more balanced point of view.  A healthy rewrite can make you feel less victimized, devastated and less lost.  They do not change the facts of the narrative they just look at the facts from more empathetic, mature and less injured eyes that can help you let go.

5. Forgive
Transforming your narrative is one of the toughest steps toward forgiveness.  It can feel powerfully rewarding to continue feeling angry when we are deeply wronged.  Forgiving someone can even make us feel as though we are letting the bad guy get off easily.  Forgiveness is  a decision that says "You wronged me.  I didn't deserve it.  I've been angry long enough.  I am laying down my anger because I don't want to carry it anymore."  

6. Learn to Be Present
There is nothing more powerful than learning to be in the present.  Having a sense of mindfulness, an acquired skill, has stress-reduction benefits that are well documented and can give us many positive emotional side effects.  As you increase your mindfulness, you will be able to get past the past. 

[1] Sills, J (2014). Psychology Today. Let It Go!
Sills presents six action steps to take to let things go.

Friday, October 31, 2014

Limiting Electronic Exposure


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  Happy Halloween from Quest!  We hope that you have a wonderful holiday today.

This issue of our newsletter includes information regarding how to limit children's time and exposure to television and electronics, especially regarding violent or more mature content.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

Limiting Children's Time and Exposure to Violence and Other More Mature Content
Given children's high interest and often obsession with television and other electronics such as video games it can be very challenging for parents to limit both children's time on across these devices, but also what type of mature and violent content they are exposed to.  While this can be challenging due to the wide range of devices and often the pressure from children it is critical for children's well-being that there are clear limits set on the amount of time they have for time interacting with electronics, but also they types of messages that they are exposed to when they actually are plugged in.
     The American Academy of Pediatrics has come out to say that television should not be viewed by children under two at any time.  There is also a lot of information regarding both the amount of exposure and potential harm that exposure to electronics can bring to children.
     Children and teenagers have been found to spend an average of four hours per day watching television, according to the Palo Alto Medical Foundation.  This time does not include time spent on the computer, being on the internet, smartphones, or playing video games.  Some negative effects that electronics can have on children and teens include:
1) Increased obesity risk--too much screen time can promote a sedentary lifestyle, which is one of the major contributing factors in obesity.  The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry estimated that 33% of teens in 2011 were obese an recommended that by replacing 30 minutes of screen time per day with physical activity would dramatically decrease children's health risks. [1]  Additionally, children who view television are found to be more vulnerable targets of advertisements for food products of poor nutritional value than children who don't watch television. [2]
2) Increased aggression--teens with exposure to violent television and video games may also experience increased aggression by being more likely to fight with peers, argue with teachers, and have more generally aggressive behaviors according to the Palo Alto Medical Foundation. [1]  Research studies have shown that children exposed to violent images are initially frightened and traumatized. With repeated exposure, they can become desensitized to the real effects of violence. Children exposed in this way may act aggressively, with no sense of consequences. [2]
3)  Sleep problems--Having electronics in your teenager's bedroom can negative affect his or her normal sleep cycle.  This is true even when children are not getting up to answer their phones since updates might be disturbing their sleep if their devices aren't completely powered down. [1]
4)  Potential mental health problems--spending too much time playing video games can increase depression in teens who have a predisposition to social or mental health problems, notes Douglas A. Gentile, a psychology professor at Iowa State University.  He cites how there is a group of teens who become addicted to video games and become isolated and depressed.  Gentile recommends monitoring and limiting game time as appropriate. [1]
5)  Television and electronic media displace social interaction--the American Academy of Pediatrics also found that time spent watching television or playing a computer game is "time not spent engaged in a creative activity, or interacting with other people. Television viewing is an especially passive experience, offering no opportunity to interact or respond. When the amount of time spent in front of the television or sitting at a game console is prolonged, it can displace social activities such as play, or even conversation. Spending too much time with electronic media can be an isolating experience, with a negative impact on the development of social skills." [2]
6)  Movies and television portray an unrealistic view of the world--The American Academy of Pediatrics also found that movies and television programs glamorize smoking and drinking and send dangerous messages to children. [2]  On a similar note, Dr. Martha Klassen and I recently heard Geena Davis speak about her institute's research regarding gender in the media.  Geena Davis' Institute's data regarding how girls and women are being portrayed in programming designed for children under 6 is considered the highest in the field and is now informing policy at places from the UN to Disney since her organization's work revealed that only 17% of characters on screen for children are female, that female characters are typically in supporting roles and have lower level careers compared to males presented, and it is not uncommon for females to be presented in suggestive clothing. More can be found about Davis' organization and their findings and efforts to change what children are exposed to at www.seejane.org.

What you can do to limit your child's exposure:
1)  Set clear time limits on the amount of screen time that your child receives during the week.  For many of my families that I work with screen time isn't a right, but a privilege that is earned in small doses.  
2)  If your child has difficulty abiding by the time limits or rules of screen time, you might remove screen time all together or put parameters in place to help monitor its use such as:
-lock up devices or keep out of children's bedrooms for better monitoring
-have passwords on all devices
-know potential of all devices (for example: I have had young children in my practice before accessing inappropriate content on the internet through their Wii since the parent didn't set parental controls not realizing the device with the potential to access the internet)
-use apps that can shut down electronics when time is up (some phone carriers provide these options as well)   
3)  Have hard limits about what types of programming your child is allowed to be exposed to.  The facts are that there are many negative elements in television, films, and video games and especially given the large amount of time that children these days spend on these devices it can have a large negative impact on children.  You need to be your child's biggest advocate despite how they will pressure you or even how other adults might tell you that these things are not damaging.  Games, shows, and movies have ratings for a reason.  One website I find helpful for making decisions about appropriate content for different age children is www.commonsensemedia.org since this will review a movie with potential areas of concern prior to going to a film or watching a show and being surprised.  This site also provides potential talking points for good discussions with children.  It can be tough sometimes to set hard limits, but your children need you to be the bad guy for them.
4)  Sometimes you might choose to allow your child to watch a show or play a game that has some questionable content as a way to educate your child about an issue.  This can be incredibly helpful.  We want our children questioning the world around them.  For example: Geena Davis gave an example during her talk about how you could talk to children about a scantily clad girl going to rescue someone where you could ask questions like "Do you think someone would really dress like that to go help somebody?"  "What do you think you would wear instead?"  Images for teens with alcohol and smoking for teens could lead to a conversation with teens in this area about your family values about drug use and what you expect for them.
5)  Be confident knowing that you are not alone and that there are many other parents out there who are also out there who are also making the same choices.  The more you can partner together the better.

     
[1] Roberts, Holly. The negative effects electronics have on teens. September 6, 2011 www.livestrong.com
[2] Walsh, Eileen.  Electronics and young children. February 18, 2011 http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Electronic_Media/ 

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Connection of Diet and Attention/Behavior


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  Our school year groups started last week and we are off to a great start. 

Our school year groups began on:  
Wednesday, September 24th
(we are still accepting last minute signups) 


Fall Groups 
Early Afternoon Therapy Group
--General group at the Central Library in Huntington Beach from 4 to 6pm on Wednesdays.

Rock Climbing Therapy Group
--At ClimbX Indoor Rock Climbing Gym from 6 to 8pm on Wednesdays. 

This issue of our newsletter includes information regarding how diet can affect attention.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

The Connection Between Diet and Attention and Behavior 
This month, Experience Life, had a great article by Pamela Weintraub summarizing some of the current research and thoughts in the field regarding attention and behavior related to diet, titled, "Connecting ADHD and Nutrition."  Weintraub's writing details the start of concerns regarding diet and behavior in the 1970's to recent, rigorous studies to examine the diet/attention connection.  She also provides several tips for parents regarding how to integrate, nutrition-based approaches into their child's life to see if these changes impact behavior.
     Questions about how diet could affect behavior was first developed by Dr. Ben Feingold, a pediatric allergist, in the 1970's when he came to believe that food dyes, preservatives, and some chemicals in food could cause hyperactivity.  There became a lot of controversy about Dr. Feingold's theories, with some studies disproving him, but many parents insisting that his recommended diet was working for their children.  
     Weintraub noted that a problem with Dr. Feingold's approach was that it pointed to too many problematic substances and didn't create for a way to separate out for various diagnoses.  She stated "the only way to tell whether eliminating a given food or additive might aid a certain disorder is to conduct studies to the highest standards of science.  And in recent years, researchers have done just that." (page 62)  Notably, Dr. David Schab of Colombia University Medical Center performed a meta-analysis (an analysis of all the placebo-controlled, double-blind studies) and found that artificial food colors had an enormous, negative effect of focus and concentration, and increased hyperactivity in a subset of children and teens.  In addition, the preservative sodium benzoate can trigger hyperactivity and inattentiveness.  These effects were more pronounced for young children and for those with more exposure to the dyes or sodium benzoate.  In addition, Lidy Pelsser, Ph.D., a researcher at the ADHD Research Centre in the Netherlands placed 50 children with ADHD on a restrictive diet of water, rice, turkey, lamb, lettuce, carrots, pears, and other whole foods rarely known to cause allergies and 64% of children had significant remission of symptoms, and most children relapsed after stopping the elimination diet.  Of note, despite criticism given these types of findings the FDA decided after an 8 to 6 split vote not to put warning labels on food with food coloring, while conversely in Europe a similar panel voted to label food and many international food makers are only using natural dyes, while American food products continue to use artificial colorings.
     Julia Rucklidge, Ph.D. in New Zealand published a randomized, placebo-controlled, double-blind trail testing a micronutrient mix (14 vitamins, 16 minerals) versus a placebo to find that those taking the micronutrient reported greater improvement in inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.  In addition, a greater effect was found for those who had been taking the micronutrient for longer periods.
     Weintraub also sites work by Dr. Kenneth Brock in his book Healing the New Childhood Epidemics: Autism, ADHD, Asthma, and Allergies, in which he reports that gluten and casein can sometimes profoundly exacerbate symptoms associated with ADHD.  He notes that by removing gluten and casein from children's diets in these cases it is possible to have children who are much calmer, focused, and who have overall better general health.
     Next, Weintraub discussed the work of physicians, Drs. Luke Curtis and Kalpana Patel, since they advocate for bundling nutritional and environmental interventions together.  In their work they often will eliminate foods and dyes, add whole foods, supplements, and probiotics, and reduce a child's exposure to toxins and then see positive changes for the child.  

Weintraub's provides a list from the experts for a "Nutritional Tune-Up" 
(Of course, consult your physician or naturopath to discuss these specifically for your family)
1.  Remove artificial colorings--especially Red #40, Blue #2, Yellow #5, and Yellow #6.
2.  Eliminate food additives--especially the preservative sodium benzoate (commonly in soda and other carbonated beverages, fruit juices, jams, salad dressings, condiments, and pickles).
3.  Remove medicines and foods containing salicylates--found in aspirin and fruits
4.  Supplement your child's meals with targeted micronutrient--vitamins and minerals including vitamin D, B vitamins, omega-3 fatty acids, amino acids, calcium, iron, magnesium, and zinc.
5.  Try a restrictive diet like referenced for Dr. Pelsser above and if symptoms subside slowly reintroduce foods to try and see what your child is having a food allergy to.
6.  Try an elimination diet such as a gluten and casein free diet.
7.  Consider your child's gastrointestinal health--work with a physician to add a probiotic along with the supplement tricycline to improve problems related to leaky gut if appropriate.
8.  Consider a low-glycemic eating plan (high in protein and fiber, low in carbs such as refined carbs and sugar).
9.  Rebuild your child's diet based on whole, organic, nutrient-dense foods.

I know this article summary has a lot of information and a lot of tips.  My hope is that this information will create opportunities for parents to increase communication with their children's physician's and other providers in the community such as naturopathic providers so that more comprehensive services can be provided for children. 

Sunday, August 31, 2014

The Annual Newsletter Review


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  It is hard to believe but summer camp is over and we are gearing up for another great school year for Quest.  I don't have enough words to say how incredibly proud I am of how our campers did this summer reaching their goals!  This summer we saw many of our campers try new things, build new friendships, have great achievements like reaching the top of the climbing wall, scoring their first goals in soccer, and boogie boarding for the first time, while building skills for how to better control their emotions and understand the social world around them--All in all, it was a fantastic summer!  

Our school year groups begin on:  
Wednesday, September 24th!

Our online system will be live for registrations on: 
Friday, September 5th 
(early registration discount September 5th to 10th)

Fall Groups 
Early Afternoon Therapy Group
--General group at the Central Library in Huntington Beach from 4 to 6pm on Wednesdays.

Rock Climbing Therapy Group
--At ClimbX Indoor Rock Climbing Gym from 6 to 8pm on Wednesdays. 

This issue of our newsletter is our annual review of what has been written for the newsletter this past year.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

The Annual Review of the Newsletter

August always seems like a good time to provide a summary of all the Quest newsletters that have been written since it first began in May of 2011.  I thought this would make sense to do since it would be a way to cover some of the topics that I tend to find the most relevant for families and include things I discuss frequently with both the children and adults I see in my office and at camp.  I continue to strive to have the newsletter be a solid resource with information and tips to help children and families live happier, healthier lives.  Hopefully this review will lead you to some of our archived newsletters that you may have missed or would like to further explore at this time.  Below I have listed the article by name and have labeled the topics covered.  A link is also provided at the bottom with all of these newsletters together.  


Quest Newsletter Article Review (Sept 2013 to Present) 

ARTICLE NAME
TOPICS COVERED
Apps to Assist with Parenting 
Parenting
Challenging Children's Fears
Parenting
Behaviors and Characteristics of Happy People 
General Health 
Helping Children to Recognize Emotions in Themselves and Others
Treatment
Social Skills 
Taking the Shame out of Parenting for both Children and Parents 
Parenting
Developing 21st Century Skills Through Summer Camp 
Enrichment Through Camp 
Getting Children Away From Computer Screens and into Other Activities  
Parenting 

Exciting New Findings Regarding Children with Autism and Alternative Health  
Alternative Health Options
Why I am Obsessed with Social Thinking (and You Should be Too!) 
Social Skills
Treatment 
How to Help Children Have Better Sportsmanship and Cope with Losing  
Parenting



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Thursday, July 31, 2014

Helping Children Improve Their Sportsmanship


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  Summer camp is flying by! Tomorrow will wrap up week 4 of our 6 week summer camp.  I am excited to say our campers are making fantastic gains this summer and we are enjoying getting to spend time with them. 

This issue of our newsletter features an article regarding how to help children increase their sportsmanship and deal with the disappointment of losing.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

How to Help Children Have Better Sportsmanship and Cope with Losing   
Helping children to develop sportsmanship and also how to tolerate losing is not easy.  This is especially true for children with extra struggles to manage their emotions.  It is difficult for parents when boardgames such as Chutes and Ladders, Candyland, or Sorry turn from a fun time with your children into a nightmare.  As many children set very high standards for games (such as to win every time) it can be challenging to help them play games and make the process fun and enjoyable.  

There are several strategies that I find can be helpful to improve children's sportsmanship and their ability to cope with losing:

1.  Frontload or pre-teach prior to starting a game with your child that the game is for fun and prepare them that anyone could win.

2.  Teach your child coping skills for when they get upset that they can use for when things don't go the way that they would like in a game.  These coping strategies can include taking deep breaths, using imagery, doing progressive relaxation, talking about their emotions, counting to 10, taking a break from the activity for a while, say "Unlucky, better luck next time." etc.

3.  I often build these coping strategies into games with children.  For example:  If a child lands on a chute in Chutes and Ladders in my office, he or she has to go down the chute, but if they can take a deep breath and say "unlucky, better luck next time" the child gets a bonus roll.  As an adult, I model the same skill, but do not earn the bonus roll.

4.  At Quest, we also play a lot of games that are cooperative in nature and would be difficult to keep score in so that it is difficult for children to focus on winning.  If children get stuck on winning, we stop them and provide bonuses if they can remember that we play for "fun" or if they can demonstrate some type of good sportsmanship such as telling a peer "good game" or give a high five.  We also teach our campers what types of behaviors constitute good sportsmanship and then reward those.  For example: for rock climbing we might do a relay race and then at the end announce that the winners were the team that had the best sportsmanship (which may or may not be the team that climbed the fastest that day).

5.  I also focus a lot with children on the process and the effort they put out versus the actual outcome.  By switching to this focus on effort and the process I find that children tend to feel more proud of themselves since they have a lot more control over whether they put forth effort in a competition and a lot less control over what happened next.

While learning to be a good sport takes time, it is an important life skill and it is worth investing in this area with your child.  Children do learn from the examples we set so we can do a lot in how we approach sports and competitions to help set children up for success.  Being able to be a member of a team and be a good winner and also a good loser is important for relationships and future success.   

Monday, June 30, 2014

Why I Am Obsessed with Social Thinking


Dear Friends of Quest, 
  
I hope that this monthly installment of our newsletter finds you happy and healthy!  I am incredibly excited to say that summer camp is officially 1 week away!  

Quest STILL Needs Your Help:

1.  More parents are needed for our research study that is starting this weekWe are continuing our research study this summer and need to connect with more potential participants.  We are looking for parents of children ages 6 to 18 with mild to moderate social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties who are not already engaging in Quest services.  Participation will be approximately 3 to 4 hours total from now to November.  As a thank you for participation, Quest will provide a free rock climbing event for the children of participants.  Please email Dr. Knott for more information or call 714-490-3428.
   
Summer Dates: July 7 to August 14 


This issue of our newsletter features an article regarding social thinking.  At Quest, we are proud to provide an innovative treatment program through our therapeutic summer camp and school year therapy groups that have been proven to reduce problem behaviors not only at camp, but in school, at home, and in everyday life.  We hope that our newsletter will be a source of support and applicable information to improve the lives of the amazing children and families in our community.
  
Sincerely,


Jodie Knott, Ph.D.
Director and Licensed Psychologist
Quest Therapeutic Camps of Southern California

Why I am Obsessed with Social Thinking (and You Should Be Too!) 
My obsession with social thinking began a few years ago when I first started to read the works by Michelle Garcia Winner.  Winner has written multiple books regarding how to assist children with social difficulties by teaching children how to utilize "social thinking".  The first book I read by Winner was exciting since it was a literature review regarding what works and what doesn't when teaching social skills to children and presented her ideas for how to use the best of evidence-based practices while also stretching further to incorporate the teaching of social thinking to increase the likelihood of children truly becoming social thinkers and generalizing the actual social skills being taught [1].  

It is difficult to build social skills and have these skills generalize due to the complexities inherent in our social world.
"Social thinking and appropriate social actions help us navigate a world shared by other people-people with differing thoughts, motives, beliefs, desires, and perceptions...Seemingly simple social skills are, in reality, quite complex networks of interdependent thoughts and actions, supported by an equally complex organizational structure. Once again, this structure develops without effort or concrete teaching in the neurotypical child; it's a normal part of the child's social development. Not so for the child with social challenges, and without a structure that helps the child organize and make sense of social learning, the child drifts even further without this innate compass to guide his thoughts and actions...It is not enough for an individual to have social knowledge. The student or adult must be able to systematically coordinate prior social knowledge within the context of the current situation, reading both verbal and nonverbal cues from the environment and people within it-whether or not verbal conversation is taking place." [2] 
   
Winner states that sometimes these skills won't generalize to other environments if a larger social knowledge is not present. Social skills need to be taught in context with support often given to assist with emotion regulation.  In addition, children with social, emotional, and behavioral difficulties do not learn the same way as other children.  Due to this difficulty they often need direct feedback related to the "hidden rules" of social interactions that they often miss that other children know without having to think about.  Children with these types of social struggles often need repeated exposures and practice, often with engaging forms of teaching that are multi-sensory in nature.  These lessons often have to be direct in nature and assist children to become social thinkers since they do not naturally process facial expressions, body language, and social cues.  

Major components of social thinking include:  
1) Teaching about what behaviors are "expected" versus "unexpected" and how engaging in these two different types of behaviors illicit different emotional reactions from others. 
2) Teaching children not just to have "eye contact," but what types of information they should actually be seeking out with their eyes (AKA--the art of being a social detective).
3) Teaching "hidden rules" of social interactions
4) Teaching the steps of perspective taking
5)  Teaching the steps of communication 

I am excited as this next camp season draws near since we plan to dedicate time each day specifically for social thinking instruction.  I am listing out some of my favorite books in the area of social thinking below for those interested in learning more.
    
**Michelle Garcia Winner has multiple books available at her website, www.socialthinking.com that offer wonderful resources regarding social thinking.  She has books, curricula, and games designed for professionals, parents, and for children.  

Winner, M. G. (2010) Sticker Strategies: Practical strategies to encourage social thinking and organization
--This book has many of the hidden rules and great lessons.  It will be a cornerstone of our camp program this summer.

Winner, M. G. (2007) Thinking about you, Thinking about me.
--Great for practitioners

Crooke, P. & Winner, M. G. (2011) Social Fortune or Social Fate
--A graphic novel for teens

Winner, M. G. & Crooke, P (2009) Socially curious and curiously social: a social thinking guidebook for bright teens and young adults
--Book for teens and young adults with a lot of information 

Jessum, J. (2011). Diary of a social detective
--Book for children to understand social cues

Cannon L., Kenworthy, L., Alexander, K & Werner M. (2011)  Unstuck and On Target
--A great book with many cognitive flexibility activities 

[1] Winner, M. G., 2008. A politically incorrect look at evidence-based practices and teaching social skills: a literature review and discussion. Social Thinking Publishing, Inc. San Jose, CA.

[2] Winner, M. G., 2008. A politically incorrect look at evidence-based practices and teaching social skills: a literature review and discussion. Social Thinking Publishing, Inc. San Jose, CA. pp. 3-5